Couples and Family Therapy
Most couples and families who come to see me are not short on love or effort. They are caught in a pattern. The same argument returns, one person pushes while the other pulls away, a teen goes quiet, or a parent and adult child can't talk without it going wrong. Each person feels unheard, and trying harder doesn't seem to help.
My work is to help you slow that moment down. I will meet each person where they are and help you notice the patterns that show up between you, in the room and at home. Together, we'll make sense of what drives them: the feelings, assumptions, and intentions that often go unspoken but shape so much of the conflict.
I draw on mentalization-based family therapy, which helps people understand not just what someone is feeling, but why. When you can see the inner world of the person across from you with more clarity, communication softens, conflict becomes more manageable, and new ways of connecting become possible. I was raised in a large family, and I find this work comes naturally and is deeply rewarding. I have completed training in this approach through The Mentalizing Initiative.
Who I work with
Couples who want to communicate better, repair after conflict, or reconnect
Parents with children or teens at home
Parents and adult children
Families moving through transition, loss, or stress
What we'll work on
Noticing and interrupting reactive cycles
Building communication rooted in curiosity rather than defensiveness
Understanding how stress, trauma, or past experience shapes current interactions
Helping parents understand their children's inner experience, and helping children and teens put feelings into words
Making space for repair, reflection, and new possibilities
What the first session looks like
We start with a brief consultation to talk about what's bringing you in and who should be in the room. In the first sessions, I listen to each person's view and get a sense of the pattern you're caught in. Then we decide together on a plan and a pace. Sessions are 60 or 75 minutes, in person in Seattle or by HIPAA-compliant Zoom for clients located in Washington and Vermont.
Fees: $275 for 60 minutes, $350 for 75 minutes.
Reach out and we'll talk about whether this is the right fit.